"You can't change who people are without destroying who they were." -The Butterfly Effect

You cam make the decision to change yourself, but no person has the right to change another person. When the idea that someone should be different pops into your mind, your automatically judging that person against someone else and standards that may not apply to them. Just like your fingerprint, every person's personality if different and just because it may not comply to your particular taste doesn't mean that change is necessary. Change is like shaving a person's head. It change what they look like on the outside, but no matter how the short you cut their hair, they will always be the same on the inside. It mainly damages a person's self esteem to suggest change along with inhibiting anything the would have freely contributed to the world. Take some time to accept rather then alter, and if you dislike someone enough to need them to change, why bother?